Grief Made Me Do It

I’ve learned a lot about grief since my sister passed away. One of those things is how grief changes you, in all kinds of ways. Grief had me in a chokehold - for months right around the 1-year anniversary of when my sister passed away! It turned me into a person I didn’t recognize and quite frankly someone I didn’t like. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, forgetting things, lashing out at others, and I also made some choices that the pre-grief version of me would have never made. I’m living with the consequences of some of those actions still. But those “mistakes” or things I did that were out of my character don’t define me. 

Now I’m not saying that grief is an excuse for treating people badly or engaging in behaviors we normally wouldn’t. What I am saying is it absolutely plays a part in us changing and doing things we may not normally do. It quite literally changes our brains!

So, if you have found yourself turning into someone you don’t recognize, you’re not alone. Just like my grief choices don’t define me, yours don’t define you either.